Why compare?

Comparing to others is a waste of time.

I’ve had to remind myself of this a lot. I’ve struggled with comparing to people I’m friends with, people I work with and people I don’t know on Instagram or on T.V. Just think how much effort that takes. You could use that time to work on yourself or do something else that’s productive.

I’m sure we all compare to a certain extent but, for people like me, it became a bit too much. I was comparing personalities, how successful they were and how they looked. This is obviously not a good thing. When we compare to others we usually end up feeling less than because we are looking at something they are doing or something they have that we want or have not achieved. The thing is, when we do this we are wasting time worrying and judging when we could be doing something more positive

In one of my previous posts I spoke about social media and how it used to cause me anxiety. One of the main reasons for this was because of my need to compare. I could go on Instagram and before I put anything on there I would browse at posts for a while and then start to feel a bit inferior. This is not the best way I was spending my time. Instead we should be happy for those people but not go any further than that.

I realised being happier and more self compassionate with myself that I didn’t need to compare. Once we start realising that we are unique and we can work on our strengths then we don’t need to compare. Of course, we can find inspiration in others but we cannot decide that they are better than us. We can improve areas of our lives but we do not need to try and be the same as anyone else.

Even if we compare where we come off better we are still comparing which I believe to be negative. Focus on yourself and what you have to offer. If you feel like someone is doing better than you then look at what you have that is positive in your life and write it down. Maybe write things that you are grateful for at the end of each day or something that you achieved. If you want to improve in that area then look at the steps you need to take. You can find out what they did and do the same.

It would be boring if we were all the same. Work on yourself for yourself. Be you. Do not compare