Declutter

I feel as though in order to really feel less heavy in your mind you need to think about what is weighing it down. Once you know then you need to get rid of it; declutter.

I love decluttering to make space and start fresh as it not only looks better but it feels good. What about decluttering other areas of your life? It’s hard to let go but if something (or someone) has not been doing you any favours then, perhaps, it is time to take that part out of your life. In order to do this you have to make the decision: do you really need it? If it has been causing you too much stress and anxiety then you need to find ways of decluttering it from your life.

Over the years I have had issues with people not messaging unless I message them and people not acting like a friend but pretending there’s no problems. This one particular person really got to me and I let it take over my mind. The more I thought about it the more annoyed I got not only at him but at myself. This is when i made the decision to no longer keep in contact or to hang around with him because of the ill treatment I received. It was a huge weight lifted because I did not have to try with him anymore.

Being friends with someone should not feel like lots of effort. You should care without it being hard work. It should be natural, after all, you became friends because it was easy to get along. As you grow older then, of course, you may naturally drift apart from people, but, for some reason, I was still hanging out with this person. It became increasingly more difficult as he did not make much effort and became good friends with a couple of my close friends. I found this hard because I wanted to hang out with them all without there being an issue but it only made me feel worse. When I finally decided to cut him out I felt so much better.

I realised I don’t have to put myself through this. We cannot be everyone’s friend. We have to not feel guilty about getting rid of the things that weigh us down. Now, there will be times where I’m invited to events and he’s there, but, I don’t feel anxious about it anymore. The reason being is that I don’t have to make lots of effort and feel bad for even trying.

If you want to declutter then make a list of things you no longer need. You can divide it into sections such as clothes, gadgets, people ect. Don’t feel bad, just really think about it. I’ve changed my style many times but I’m happy to get rid of old clothes so I can start fresh with a look that I feel is me at the time. I’ve had to convince myself not to feel guilty about wanting what’s best for me. I’m sure we all do this at times. If you’re constantly feeling negatively towards certain aspects of your life then why should you feel guilty about decluttering it? It’s a positive realisation in the end.

People and things will change. Declutter your life and declutter your mind.