People Change

One of the things I didn’t realise is how disappointed I was to find out how much someone had changed. I knew that people change but, for some reason, I found it hard to accept.

The reality is that people do change. It can be difficult if you were best friends or close with this person and they do not seem to respond to you as much or hardly at all. It is something I have come to accept. I had to focus on my own life instead of being distressed about them. I spent a lot of energy being annoyed thinking “but they never liked this and now they do, why don’t they message me as much?” People have their own issues and their own life to deal with and things just happen. Perhaps this person was not meant to be in your life for as long as you thought. It is very rare for people to continue to stay friends with those from when they were younger. Think about that. A lot has changed since being at school. Are you still the same person? I’m glad I’m not. I was very insecure and shy.

Life is life. People will let you down but that can be your lesson. If they consistently let you down then you should not be wasting time with them anymore. If it’s hurting you then it is not serving you.

Perhaps you need to look at who you are without them. Look at what you want, find a new hobby and focus more on yourself. You’re allowed to be a little selfish in life. I no longer feel disappointed by this person because I have my own interests and priorities to deal with.

Understand that you have also changed. You can’t expect everything to be the same. It can be sad to find out they are not who they used to be but this is a part of life. When I was struggling with this I looked at my own life and how much I had changed.

If they are not providing you with the same effort then you need to stop wasting your time.