True friends

Friends are supposed to make you feel good. It should be easy and not feel like you’re making tons of effort. If you’re putting a lot into a friendship and not getting much back then it’s time to end it, let it go. It makes you feel deflated and like you are not worth their time. Well, they are not worth your time.

I have definitely been someone who has made a lot of effort with certain people and they truly do not appreciate it. I feel that they have most certainly taken me for granted. As I have gotten older I have had the relief of not having these people in my life. They made me feel bad about myself as though the reason they were not bothered was because there was something wrong with me. They have made me feel anxious because meeting up with them I knew how I would feel during and after. This is not what a friendship should be. The good thing is that I finally realised I didn’t have to make the effort anymore. They made it pretty easy for me really. Now, a close friend of mine is friends with some people who I have had these feelings about which is why I held on. After a while it became pretty exhausting trying to remain their friend so I made the decision to not bother with them. I did not have to hang out with them. I could just hang out with my close friend instead. Do not let anyone make you feel like you’re not good enough: you are enough.

Friends come and go as time goes on but we should not put all our efforts and hopes into friendships. It is good to have a few or even just one good friend. These friends should make you feel at ease, not anxious or upset. What kind of friendship is that? What other people choose to do with certain people is up to them. I’m glad I only have people in my life who don’t make me feel negative, who only bring me up and not down. If the same negative feelings keep occurring with these so-called “Friends ” then that should be the end of it. You have to realise that friendships change and you are allowed to say no to certain people.

Hang around people who are a positive influence. You can tell who really cares and who doesn’t. You should not be made to feel like you’re the problem-no one is better than you. We’re all humans. I know that I’m a nice, genuine person so it is their loss that they don’t see that. We can’t be everybody’s friend, even if it seems like some people are. I can tell you that they will of had friends that have come and gone.

Be there for those who are there for you. Do not focus on negative thoughts about people who serve you no purpose.